Chosen Mother & Daughter
Annemieke & Desiree
What connects you?
Annemieke: ''Even though Desiree is not my actual daughter, I truly feel a strong connection to Desiree. It has to do with the way she carries herself in life, the choices she makes, and how she cares for others. She has a beautiful profession—she’s a midwife, which makes her very people-oriented.''
Desiree: ''I think what connects us is the way we both see life, how we look at people, and what we find important. I think we can truly call it a soul connection.''
Even though you're not actually mother and daughter, how did this connection come to be?
Desiree: ''I met Annemiek on the street with Amigo, her little dog. I thought, “What a lovely woman.” My son Lukas was about a year old, and I thought, “She would be the perfect babysitter.” So, we put up a flyer in the garage, hoping she would respond. I think she hesitated, thinking, “I’m not a mother, I have no experience, they probably won’t find me suitable.” But for us, she was exactly what we were looking for. From the moment we spoke, we felt we were soulmates. There’s a big age difference between us, but we share a deep connection.
Annemiek: ''The funny part was that you were looking for someone to take care of your little boy now and then. I don’t have children, and I’ve often experienced people assuming that if you don’t have kids yourself, you can’t take care of them. But as a teacher, I have always been surrounded by children. It’s a strong prejudice that people have. Still, I decided to meet with you because I felt you should know who I am, and it turned out to be a perfect match. We lived in the same apartment building back then, which is how we met in the garage. Now, we have a true, warm friendship.''